Once you listen to your Inner Meanie and find out what they are really complaining about, it’s important to evaluate the information to determine if it is valid or not. Because the voice of the Inner Meanie is usually harsh and accusatory, we tend to not want to listen and then we can miss their gems of wisdom. In the end, these parts of ourselves really do have our best interest at heart.
For example, one client’s Inner Meanie kept telling her that she HAD to get certified as a bookkeeper. She had been keeping books for 20 years and she felt that she did need to get certified and she wished her Inner Meanie would take a hike and leave her alone about it. Because I was outside of the Inner Meanie’s “firing range,” I could hear that there might be some value in what her Inner Meanie was saying. I asked my client several questions about the certification process, “How much did it cost?” “How much time would it take to study for it?” “What would be the impact to her customers if she was certified?” Her answers showed that she would most likely gain more credibility and even possibly some new knowledge and at a minimal outlay of time and money.
In the end, I agreed with her Inner Meanie’s recommendation. My client was very surprised – she had never considered that her Inner Meanie could be right! But after looking at the facts objectively, she saw the virtue in this recommendation and gained a different perspective on sitting for her certification test and on her Inner Meanie.
Other times the Inner Meanie is not providing advice that would be in your best interest to follow. This “advice” usually sounds something like this, “It will never work” “Who do you think you are?” “You can’t do it!” This type of “advice” is usually from a past event in which some “authority” (e.g., parent, teacher, classmate, etc.) either said these things to you or there was an event that left a lasting scar. In this situation, there is a proven process to “neutralize” these limiting beliefs , adopt new empowering beliefs or release the “emotional charge” from the past event so you can see it in a whole new light.
Stay tuned for Step 3! See you in the next blog (^_^)
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