Does she or he point the finger at you? Do you want to send her on a vacation – or better yet – over a cliff?
Are you tired of hearing him or her say, “Who do you think you are?” “You can’t do that!” or “It will never work!”
No worries – there’s a remedy that won’t land you in Inner Meanie jail!
Inner Meanies, Inner Critics, Doubters – or whatever you want to call them – are parts of yourself (or ego) that are trying to protect you. They were usually formed in childhood, or even when you were a baby, to protect you and help you survive. The problem is, they are “stuck in the past” and don’t know how amazing and capable you are now. It’s a matter of educating them and bringing them “up to speed” as it were.
They are usually in a much better mood – and ready for educating and enlightening – when you are not mad at them. Very much like dealing with a screaming 2-year-old. Remain calm and listen. They usually feel a need to “scream” at you because they feel you are not listening to them and/or they want to get your attention.
The saying, “Seek first to understand and then to be understood” works really well when dealing with these agitated parts.
There is a proven 5-step process for dealing with Inner Meanies, Inner Critics, Doubters, etc. Step 1 will be revealed in tomorrow’s blog. Be patient and no peeking (^_^)
See you in the next blog!