Dealing with the Inner Meanie – Step 1

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True confession: I am not a good poker player!  You have probably already guessed step one in the 5-part process to deal with Inner Meanies, Inner Critics, Doubters, etc.  Or maybe it was the picture that gave it away?

Step 1: LISTEN.  Stay calm and really listen.  Hear what they have to say before dismissing them or trying to shut them up or block them out.  Ask them to talk about what they are upset about and explain it to you.  Get curious, ask questions and really listen.

Maybe you’re thinking, “You’ve got to be kidding me!  I’m supposed to listen to them? Give me a break!”  Maybe you’ve been told that you should NOT listen to your Inner Critic?  Or maybe you’ve been told to say, “Thank you – you did a good job in protecting me when I was a child, but I don’t need you now.”

It’s been my experience that when I took either of these approaches, my Inner Critic always came back and usually ended up sabotaging me.  I have found much more success with this 5-step process that starts with listening.  In fact, by using this process, I have come to see my “team” of Inner Meanie, Inner Critic, Doubter, etc. as my trusted advisors and friends.

Maybe you’re thinking, “I don’t want to hear what they’re saying!” The information my Inner Meanie has given me (or my clients) has sometimes been very valuable and lead to some great decisions and actions.  But now I’m getting ahead of myself – more about that in later steps.

Step 1: Listen. Really hear what they have to say before dismissing them or trying to shut them up or block them out.  Ask them to talk about what they are upset about and explain it to you.  Get curious, ask questions and really listen.

Step 2 will be revealed in tomorrow’s blog.  By the way, patience is a virtue – especially when dealing with Inner Meanies, Inner Critics, Doubters, etc. Be patient and no peeking!

 

See you in the next blog (^_^)

 

Image courtesy of Jeroen van Oostrom/FreeDigitalPhotos.net

4 Responses to Dealing with the Inner Meanie – Step 1

  1. Okay…I’ll be listening today. Can’t wait to hear what the next steps are.

  2. Kimmer Sue says:

    Listening to my inner critic is a new concept. I look forward to hearing her.
    And patiently waiting for step 2!

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  3. Marina Rose says:

    Thanks for the reminder. I’ve scheduled some time tomorrow to listen :-)

  4. mary botham says:

    Asking my inner meanie “what is the worst that can happen” and making a plan for just in case THAT happens has served me well in the past. Just having a plan seems to quiet that meanie girl down.
    http://www.marybotham.com

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